What I have found is that I can check-off the box to all of those expectations, except for successful. The definition of success differs from person to person. By living up to the expectations of someone else’s definition of success, you will feel you have failed privately.
However, to overcome these unspoken expectations it is important to make choices for you, live the life you wish to live. I have taken many risks in my life and I have done so regardless of the unspoken expectations. I look for the positives in each failure which has allowed me to be the best version of my authentic-self and meet my OWN unspoken expectations.